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This gorgeous gown is a new offering from Leezu! called Tatum. Scrumptiously romantic

Do you ever get the feeling that something really big is about to happen in your life but you don’t know what it is? It’s just this feeling in the pit of your stomach. I’ve had that feeling all day. I don’t know if “it” is something good or bad, I just feel something bigger than me looming on the horizon. My mama always tells me not to borrow worry. But I can’t help it, I’ve always been a quiet harbinger of nuances of all things surrounding me. I think thats what happens on occasion when you are a watcher and a thinker. You get so much up into your own head that you know intuitively you are on a precipice and about to either fall or fly.

It’s not often I am led to leave my platform in the sky, I am so shy these days. When I saw this house on my new friend Apple Fall’s flickr ( http://www.flickr.com/photos/80288053@N02/ ) I just had to go look. His work is divine. It really made me ache to put roots back on the ground in Second Life. Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough.

Take from? Well, sort of. On those days you worry so much, don’t focus on yourself, focus elsewhere, because whatever is about to happen is going to whether we want it to or not. With that thought in mind, I think I’ll stay in tonight, sit on the balcony with a glass of wine and a book. The moons been huge and will be full tomorrow which brings the sound of the ocean to a magnificent crescendo, so while I listen to the ocean serenading me, I think I’ll buckle myself in and prepare for the toss. I’ll let you know if I fall or if I fly. If you get a chance, check out Leezu! she has tons of new items in lately and don’t forget my new friend Apple Fall, he has everything you need to make your Second house a real home. Heck, as you can see, he even has the house.

Leezu!: Taxi:
Apple Fall: Taxi:

Yep, I broke model rule number one, I went into public half styled.. shhhh don’t tell Frolic! Outfit credits coming soon!Pose: Del May

One thing sure stands true in Second Life™, very few things stand still. How many times have you teleported with one of your landmarks and your destination is gone? It happens to me quite a bit, especially when the economy tanked. Just goes to show, virtual worlds aren’t really insulated from the economics of the real world. I don’t get around much anymore, being retired I am more out of world than inworld these days. Especially with the job being cranked right now and the new “boyfriend.” But I can still reminisce about the days when I first started Second Life™, I loved clubbing, listening to music, laughing with friends. Ah the good old days. One of my fave haunts was GOL, known not only for its hard driving, pulse thumping music, but also for its state of the art virtual architecture. If you were looking for a crowd of people, GOL was your destination. For newer residents who have never experienced a fun loving crowd, today is your lucky day! For the rest of us, well, we’ll just go because we love the madding crowd, the music, and a good party.

COMING MAY 24th 10am slt , a new chapter in the GOL history, from the Original Founder, Creator and Owner Dakota Neumann. The famed GOL club series will christen it’s newest member, The 9th on Friday, May 24, 2013. Dakota Neumann, the creator and founder of GOL is proud to share his latest creation with the world. Since June of 2006, GOL has been the long established KING of the music scene in Second Life. We’ve all enjoyed hanging out with friends and letting the tuneage from the best DJs around the world move our bodies.

Keeping the T R A D I T I O N alive! Join us as we christen the newest addition to our GOL family… Limo to the Show:

Two of the many things that make Florida the unique place it is, are tropical music and kitsch. You don’t see kitsch as much as you used to now that most people spend their money on T-shirts instead of the old florida inscribed souvenirs. Heck most people come here to see the House of the Mouse, not buy coconuts carved like monkey’s heads or seashells glued together to form animals. I guess even that guy lost his job when the economy tanked. I always kind of liked the coconut bra myself, they weren’t too comfy but boy nothing says “native” quite like that. My quirkiness in mind, you can imagine how surprised and thrilled I was when I found, like so many other pieces of Florida Americana trinkets, I just officially became a souvenir!

I thought I was pretty close to this iconic state when someone came out with the “cow chair” a few years ago, but I was disappointed when my dragon Draakje Daily told me it wasn’t specifically made for me. But this, this is ME! Recently Miss Virtual World Modeling Academy started handing out these wonderful “goody bags” with all sorts of cool information and gifty’s in them. As you know, any good model worth her weightless-ness in salt spends hours on a pose stand making sure all of her prims are adjusted and positioned to the nth position in case someone decides to perv them to check their measure as a model. So to make this “task” a little more fulfilling and enjoyable, MVWMA included a multiposition pose stand in the kit. But not just that! If you receive one of these “limited” items, the picture on the stand is…. wait for it…. ME! You get to stand on me! I can’t imagine how many times any one of you have been editing your prims and swearing and thinking, “This %$#*$^ would be perfect if I could just stand on Cao for a little while.” Well, lucky soon to be models and training to be models? You too can stand on a Cao for a little luck! (Who wouldn’t want a little luck of the Irish?) Heck, I bet my friend Peep takes the class just to get the stand. We’ve already had the debate which is better, bacon or a side of Cao in the morning.

Take from? Would you like it any other way? Of course! All kidding aside, it is truly an honor for anyone to be recognized, no matter what they are doing. So thank you Frolic, BlackBarbie Bravin and all of you at MVWMA. I learned so much when I was there and I just adore you all! Thank you Natzuka Miliandrovic for taking the awesome picture, and Mila Tatham for making the outfit, because the thing to remember is, no person is an island, those who by some luck “get ahead,” well its doubtful you got there alone. So never think these awards are yours alone, they are for every single person who took the time to help you up along the way. The ones who let you “step on them” a little bit. They are the true winners. Just something to think about as we slide into the weekend.

As an aside, I am not a blogger for World Gothic Fair, so I don’t know too much about it, but I went nosing about a couple of days ago and picked up a few things to blog. World Goth Fair is an annual Second Life event, officially sanctioned by the folks at World Goth Day to benefit the Sophie Lancaster Foundation. Let’s work together to make some good come from the senseless death of Sophie Lancaster. Let’s focus on creating respect for and understanding of subcultures in our communities.

SIMShttp://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Cursed/73/127/1003 – WGF Cursed
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Port%20Seraphine/128/156/504 – WGF Port Seraphine

Outfit:
Hair: VCD, Hairbase style 2
Hat: LWL, Faint! Alejandro
Shirt: Tee*fy, Mini Corset
Jacket: Lassitude and Ennui, Gothic Doll Jacket **World Gothic Fair**
Collar: Lassitude and Ennui, Viola Lace Collar
Corset: :{MV}: Jareth Binding Corset **World Gothic Fair**
Skirt: Boudoir, Gothic Lolita Skirt **World Gothic Fair**
Leggins: Ison, Lace Applique leggings
Boots: Ison, Levander
Makeup: Zibska, Saskia
Pose: Manifeste

Yeah, yeah I know. At some point, me and my besty girls probably became too old for “Girls Gone Wild.” Probably right around the time we graduated from college, though personally for me, I never got around to going wild. It’s not tiger momma approved, I still have that “good girls marry doctors” mantra tattoo-ed to my brain. But some of these girlfriends? Yikes! Kinda funny how I’m the only one whose never been married, yet. But it’s okay, I kinda like the person I live with.. me. I still love girls night out, we try to at least once a week or once every other week. Its been said by experts that good friendships literally make you healthier by increasing your life span, boosting your immune system, and making you feel generally happier as a whole. Hear that mom? Being out with the girls doesn’t make you a lesbian it makes you an old maid. So there!

We really have fun, no matter what we do. So I’ve decided today to throw my five fave “girls nights out” here. And yes, sorry, it seems for the best nights out, alcohol was involved. We do not drink and drive though, we always have a husband or boyfriend deliver us home after the evening is done or crash where we are. I have to admit, as I look at them now and blush, when women get married, their tastes in “girls nights out” become a bit more, well, more. Please let me know what you do to enjoy time with your girlfriends, I’d love to know!

1. Just Dance Shots on the Wii. It’s just as fun as going out dancing but we don’t have to spend hours getting “made up.” The kicker, if you miss a step, time to take a shot. Personally I don’t mind having to take the shot, I dance better when I’m drinking.

2. Pole Dancing lessons. I know I don’t get it either. I guess if you are married, you learn to pole dance so your husband puts dollars in your thong instead of someone elses. But really it’s a ton of exercise and I look at it this way, I am either preparing for the day when I too am married or if I lose my job, I’m already trained for another.

3. Fake Bachelorette Party. We do this once a year if we can, its loads of fun. We grab a bunch of penis paraphernalia and a paper veil and take turns being the bachelorette living up our “last night of freedom” at our favorite bars. You’d be amazed how many free drinks you get, from men and women. But it does require a designated driver for the evening.

4. Wine Tasting Party. This is another fun one. Every one brings their fave bottle of wine wrapped in paper and the hostess includes a few extra bottles, including one “skunk of the month.” (A bottle you are unsure whether it will be fit for human consumption). We then smell and taste each wine, putting comments about them on a notepad. It’s funny how crazy the comments are the further into the tasting you become, especially when we try to figure out which one is the skunk one.

5. Sex Toy Party. I have this one friend (I think every one does). She is a stay at home mom but wants to make money on the side. Over the years, she’s sold Avon, Tupperware, Southern Living Home Collection, Pampered Chef. Well you get it, those home parties where you get your closest friends tipsy enough that they will spend anything on you just to get the sales pitch over with? Her latest venture was a Sex Toy party. Well honestly, I am repressed enough that when I buy sex toys, I have to buy them while wearing sunglasses perusing the Internet on one of “those” websites. But well, she’s a besty, I’ll do anything for her. So three drinks in, which is probably about the time I begin to list a little, this thing called a “rabbit” comes hopping across the floor at me, unable to get up in my current state, the last thing I remember was feeling a little faint. It took me forever to get her to take that pic off her Facebook page before my momma saw it..

Take from? Of course! Life may move on and we may grow up, but don’t ever allow yourselves to grow apart. Friends are the people who not only support you, they travel along with you. So laugh and love with your new family and your “old” family all blended as one. As an aside, this is the lovely dress from Kyra Camel of Baboom that I mentioned in yesterday’s blog, and the hairs a heart friend Chiaki Xue of Dura’s latest release, Dura girl47.

Scene/Outfit:
Dress: Baboom, May Mesh Gown **New** Taxi:
Hairs: Dura, Girl 47 **New** Taxi:
Makeup: Mons <3
Jewelry: Indy & Co, Suha Stones
Ladder/tree: What Next, Falling Wall
Chair: DIGS, Morris Chair **New**
Books: Patron, Silk Bedside Pillow book

I had a completely different blog planned for today. I hope Kyra Camel of Baboom will forgive me one more day. I fell in love with one of her dresses a few weeks ago and she so kindly gave it to me, so as a friend, today I am sucking on empty. I can’t help it. At times the words and thoughts in my head create a deep dark moodiness that I have a difficult time rising above. And it seems all I can do is write to get them pushed away from me. Remember? You can’t cure crazy. So if you don’t like dark, perhaps today’s blog isn’t a good bet for you and I don’t blame you for leaving. Yesterday, a 200 mile per hour 2 mile wide tornado wiped out an entire city and more specifically (to me) 2 schools, such catastrophes always makes me wonder if there even is a God.

Don’t get me wrong, I know there is a grand plan to the universe, with or without a deity. Also I know, tragic circumstances will occur, and they have some meaning or purpose. We are humans, so we will always suffer, because we are tied to “earthly things.” But it just goes to prove, the more we lessen our desire to possess others or control our fate the less we suffer (at the hands of fate). Happiness is achieved by a detachment from that which is earthly. Those who choose to live moment to moment, and love in a detached and non-possessive manner minimize the tragedies they face. Rather than constantly struggling to get what you want, try to modify your wanting. Wanting deprives us of contentment and happiness. Cold? Yes, perhaps it is a little. Is this pessimistic, or realistic? Well that’s for you to decide. After all, in the end, life is a solitary journey, don’t you want it to be defined by you?

But honestly, how in the world could this tragedy make me a better person? Perhaps if I am more open to noticing how life’s course may have changed in a positive direction, or just allowing my mind to question the purpose of the tragedy in its aftermath, well that may be the best I can do, especially at first. The statement that hindsight is 20/20 seems to be the first step to be applied to attempting to construct meaning from horrible circumstances. As life continues, your hindsight allows you to find your own patterns and realize that even though these circumstances were never what you wanted, or could even have controlled, they still may have positive consequences. If it is not so right now, at least possibly it can be in the future.

Take from? Actually no, not really. I’m just trying to make sense in my own head a terrible tragedy. Do I feel better? Naw, not a single bit, other than I got all this pollution of words out of my head. I just hope I can make something positive grow from this negative event. Even if its just to change my own outlook a little. To remind myself to carry softly those I love, to always be gentle with those I do not love because everyone’s life leaves footprints on the hearts of others. It’s up to us whether our footprints will be seen as a blessing or a curse. Just a little high-gravity today, probably not worth the time it took to read it. But don’t worry, the Second Life Cao will be back tomorrow. I promise.

Short blog today! Playing a get caught up Monday! Yikes! So I just decided to enact an “extend-a-weekend” program for the day. So today is still officially Sunday for me. I’ll start my high gravity Monday tomorrow. But who can blame me anyway? Did you see the new Tee’s and bikini’s from Drift? LOVE em! I wish Kallisto Destiny would send me some for my real life. Kalli? And just for us, the outfits color change, so there is a color perfect for every occasion. Nothing says summer quite as nicely as a low maintenance, cool hair cut. This hairs from Chiaki Xue of Dura, is a perfect no fuss adorable look for even the hottest of days, so don’t miss out! Between the two of them they will have your summer kicked in perfectly. Now if I can just figure out where I put the tequila and lime.

But, don’t take my word for it, follow the links and check them out yourself!

Dura: Taxi:
Drift: Taxi:

Outfit:
Hairs: Dura, girl16
Bikini: Drift, Tini Kini Plaid **New**
T-shirt: Drift, Sunday tee **new**
Glasses: Redgrave, Holly
Earring/ Bracelet: Mandala, Senjyu and Sitennoah
Bag: Ison, Scout Boho
Poses: Behavior Body, Handbag

I spent another selfish weekend. What can I say, sometimes it just feels so good! I DID do something I rarely ever do in Second Life, I wandered out into public. YIKES! Naw it wasn’t so bad, my besty love Skip Staheli, photographer extraordinaire had a 6th rezz day party. So not only did I attend, I was even in SL in the evening! Boy, I hope he knows what a journey that was for me. But seriously, it was a lot of fun. I saw a lot of people I don’t see very often, Frolic Mills, BlackBarbie Bravin, Cottoncandy Teardrop, Fina Ethaniel and even my bestest of all bestestesses, my little dragon Draakje Daily. There just so many people I can’t possibly name them all! I even inworld met a FB friend, Wheelerwood Oppewall. So all in all I would say it was an amazing fun way to spend a Saturday!

Join this group (http://www.flickr.com/groups/truthmodels)to be in the running to win a $L2500 Truth Gift Card and have your picture featured in the store!

10 lucky winners will be selected initially and when it’s time to rotate the posters I’ll continue to select pictures from the pool and they will receive a $1000 gift card to spend at Truth.

Competition opens 14 May 2013 SLT and closes 1 June 2013. (Feel free to continue adding after this closing date)

Terms:

* Must be wearing hair from the new Truth Hair store. Hair should be purchased on or after 13 May 2013.

* Minimum 2048 x 2048 pixels in size.

* Focus of the photo should be on the hair. Waist upwards is encouraged.

* Be artistic! processing is allowed. Be sure to turn on your anti-aliasing etc, high quality pictures are needed.

* Currently I only stock female hair (sorry guys ).

* Entries must be submitted to the Flickr group http://www.flickr.com/groups/truthmodels. Any entries submitted to me personally will be disregarded.

Look forward to seeing your pics!

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Outfit I wore to Skips beach party:
Hairs: Truth, Lotus **New**
Hair piece: LaGyo, Angelie
Shirt: Tulip., Halter top
Skirt: Drift, Hangover Maxi
Handbag: Ison, Scout Boho
Necklace: Indy & Co., Peony Necklace
Bracelet: Mandala, Sitennoah
Tattoo: .::K::.
Pose: Behavior Body (BeBo) Handbag poses
SIM: L2 studio

I know most of you don’t really believe me when I say I am undateable. Only those closest to me really know what a mishap waiting to happen I truly am. But by my usual standards of measure, this week has been epic. I met his family, he met my family, both could be recipes for disaster for any relationship. But I have to be honest, I loved his family, maybe even a little more than I like him! The first time I met his grandmother, she walked into the room in her coordinated polyster “jogging” suit, giant glasses and sparkly, colorful earrings and waved her cigarette at me while exclaiming in a voice raspy enough it acknowledges her years of smoking, “What a pretty girl!” How could I not fall in love? In fact I am thinking about trading my mom in for his grandmom. The day after my birthday we had lunch with my mom. I figured since it was a work day and we only had 45 minutes tops, how much trouble could my mum get into, right? Everything was going along nicely, I saw my mom looking at me but thought nothing of it. Just about the time I put a rather large piece of lettuce and tomato in my mouth, she turns to my new beau, smiles at him and asks him if he will be in our yearly Olan Mills family photo next week! I actually couldn’t speak the rest of the lunch. I still can’t figure out whats worse, the fact that she asked him to be a part or the fact that our family does something so bizarre in this day and age.

He is amazing though. He met Katy the Jack Russell Terriorist the other day and she hates everyone. She was flopping all over him, couldn’t get enough attention from him. When I remarked how amazed I was he said he wasn’t surprised really because kids, dogs and gay guys all love him. I’m just hoping that’s not an omen. But today was the worst. I’m supposed to have a date tonight to meet with some of his friends. My cell phone has T-9 on it. You know, the thing where your phone tries to figure out what you are texting to finish it for you? It’s possessed. I’ve watched it kill relationships before. I once texted “I’m taking anap” (forgot to hit the spacebar between the two words) and it came out anal. Thank God I was chatting with a girlfriend who knows me well and knows these conversations are normal for me. Well, today Jay texted me to ask when I wanted him to pick me up. I texted back “after work I have to get a vaccine and groceries.” Well he’s pretty quick on the take, I am sure he knows what happened. I hope. He texted back, “Lol a Vaccine huh? You have something you need to tell me?” Embarrassed for the umpteenth time this week, I just texted back “I meant a sucking machine for the floor.” Mess that one up T-9!

Take from? Of course! And yes, much of this is written in gest. I love to laugh at myself! Heck some of my friends make a hobby out of laughing at me. But the point is, never take yourself too seriously. Let a person see the bad just as much as the good. When you do, you will know for sure whether they are a fair weather friend or an all weather friend. Time will tell on this one, but with the way the week shaped up, it’s looking pretty sunny in Florida. Now, I just have to find him and Katy matching outfits for the picture.

Outfit:
Hair: Tuty’s Adorable
Jacket: Purple Moon, Hana *Couturier’s Dock*
Knicker shorts: Leezu!, Glitter pants
Shoos: {{BDS}} Toiles de Joury, disco cyan **L’Accessoires**
Handbag: {Cherry}, Sage snake skin **L’Accessoires**
Necklace: NYU, Outrage! **L’Accessoires**
Pose: **Manifeste**

My friend the “Nocturnal Poet” that he is sent me a poem last night and it gave me a little chuckle. (See Below) But as a watcher and a thinker, it also made me think. So often in life we have activities or experience moments where we are left with the feeling that postage is due. I’m sure you know how it is, the experience you are promised is never quite as good as the hype that led up to it? For example, you work real hard for a promotion and it is given to someone else. Boy that stinks, doesn’t it? The trick though, is how you deal with it. I think once the sting of the rejection wears off a little, it’s a great time to sit back and take stock. Figure out why this goal/event was so important to you. In this example you might just find the raise in money was the motivation and not the promotion itself. Once you’ve figured out why something is so important to you, it’s a lot easier to keep going. I once read the quote,”The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground” and somehow it fits me, so I keep it near on tough days.

We all fall flat at some point, it’s a fact of life. There is no magic number of times to try and get something right but you should keep trying until it either works, or to the point where you can look at yourself and think, “I may not have gotten what I wanted, but no one can say I didn’t give it my all.” The point is, don’t dwell on the “disasters” in your life. Heck, if I did that, I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed in the morning. Draw strength and focus on the positive in your life and allow yourself to enjoy that instead. Typically what we do have is usually enough, though we never quite want to believe it. Hear that mom? I’m happy with my friends and accept my lack of love life, so there! I said it! (sooo glad she doesn’t have a computer) I think most of all though, remember to find a way to laugh. So many times I think back to little “tragedies” in my life and I wonder how in the world I thought that event held any significant meaning is beyond me. The thing is, we live in the moment, not in the big picture. It’s not rocket science, it’s normal. If we were able to live in the big picture we’d probably find a way to fast forward past the bad parts and pause at the triumphs and this would not make a well rounded Cao a’tall.

I think once your facing forward again, you will find that things typically do happen for the best. I know this is very generalized, I am speaking of little setbacks in life, not major health/life issues, so please don’t think I’d ever trivialize something like that. Just remember, only in struggling to emerge from the cocoon does a butterfly form wings strong enough to fly.

Here’s a Kiss For You My Lady
Please Hold It Close To Heart
Its wrapped within a Teardrop
Freshly Shed from when we are apart
I’ve also added a Hug for you for when
you feel alone.

Here’s another Kiss For Luck
for when we are talking on the phone
I would have sent all of me so you know my Heart is True
But I Thought You Would be Angry
When I came Postage Due!

Outfit
Jewelry: Zibska, Gwen **L’Accessoires** Taxi:
Hairs: Boon, YNO421
Glasses: Redgrave, Holly
Pants: LaGyo, Sparro
Belt: =DeLa*=, Elba
Rings: Mandala, Annutra and Motsumame
Makeups, Mons <3
Pose: Diesel Works

I can’t wait for real life work to be done. Tonight is another “girls night out.” I can have them any time I want, but my friends, being married, some even with a rugrat or two, the orchestrating becomes a bit more complex. We basically sit there hunched over our Iphones, crackberry’s or androids pecking away at our calendars until we find one night that is empty for us all. I love girls night out, it always reminds me of our carefree college days but more importantly, it reminds me I need to stop every once in a while and treasure the many gifts I’ve been given. The wonderful friends and their growing families, the state I live in, my job, all the beauty that surrounds me, and my education. I do think college is a gift, not all are lucky enough to be able to go but I believe education is the greatest gift of all. I know, how does that make sense, right? We all have the ability to expand our knowledge, to study, to learn from others, opportunity is all around us, everywhere we look. All we have to do is listen, ask, share. I plan to be a life long learner. I think Mark Twain said it just right when he was quoted,”Don’t let schooling interfere with your education.” Real learning comes from what we learn when our nose isn’t mashed in some book.

Why this topic, why today? Some of my best education has come from this group of friends. They never cease to amaze me. Surround yourself with intelligence, sincerity and kindness and how can you not learn? But. I think it behooves us to have a broad spectrum of friends to learn from, to minimize the occurence of groupthink. Groupthink is a psychological phenomenon that occurs within a group of people, in which the desire for conformity leads to decisions based to minimize conflict. Think about it, I’m sure most of us have “that” group of friends. That is how my virtual group broadens my education widely. (You guys rock!) As for the sunsets and sunshells? I always think fondly of both when I am meeting these girlfriends. Between the four of us, we’ve spent countless hours over the years searching for both. Some were gorgeous, others forgettable but for the most part the goods outweigh the bads. I kinda figure thats a life well spent, don’t you? I hope you have the chance to spend time with cherished friends too this week! Don’t forget! L’Accessoires started today! I’m such a happy Cao, I even included the links here: Link:

Outfit:
Hair: Tram, A418
Necklace/Ring: MiWardrobe, Little Prince **L’Accessoires**
Watch: Eclipse, Carpe Diem **L’Accessoires**
Purse: Pure Poison, Persia blk&slvr **L’Accessoires**
Top: Baiastice, Maua Bikini top
Shorts: .Shi, Beehive highwaist short **NEW**