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The Door Left Open

Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open. ~John Barrymore

The Door Left OpenHair: [Lelutka], Colleen **2014 Hair Fair** . Glasses: Glam Affair, Vintage glasses . Necklace: Ison, Safari Tribe **Collabor88** .

I am going to try to be succinct and to the point today, I’ve a banger of a headache. I was recently interviewed for a magazine article and a comment made in the inworld Miss Virtual World Academy group chat reminded me of one of my answers to a question and I think it bears repeating here. In the group an instructor admonished a conversation among models about not bad mouthing others and being professional at all times. To the conversing parties, I know you want to be an upper echelon model, or perhaps you are, I don’t know as this was never a goal of mine in Second Life, I’d find such a goal to be akin to wanting to catch a unicorn to ride to work, because face it, it’s not real. But this thought bears speaking of in regards to real life as well, because it is the foundation of living a happy life.

The Door Left OpenBag: David Heather, Bally Bag **L’Accessories** . Shoos: Miamai, Regan **L’Accessories** . Shirt: .:Vive Nine:., Helena **The Seasons Story** . Pose: BeBo, Just Pose HUD Bags .

Worry less about what other people think of you, a beautiful life is about spending your time passionately, being happy with who you are inside, and not worrying about everyone’s petty judgments. If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for everyone’s approval. You don’t need anyone’s approval to be happy or to follow your heart. Plan to outdo your past, not other people, because people, like rivers, constantly change. Deliver results, even when making excuses is easier. Quit taking shortcuts. Stop relying on quick fixes, or blaming others, or relying on “I’ll do it tomorrows.” Enough with the excuses, we all know them for what they are, whether we are giving them or hearing them. Refrain from feeling sorry for yourself. We all know what it’s like to go through a rough patch. The strongest, happiest, most successful people are not those who always win, but are those who don’t give up when they lose. They fail forward. So keep calm when everything seems to be going wrong. You may feel weak, but your spirit is strong. Be patient and don’t rush life. Practice patience and keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in and oft you will find though you might not be right were you expected to be, where you are is beyond your dreams.

The take from? Spend more time with the right people. And if you know the people around you aren’t the right people, you need to change the people around you. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. And if you are the negative people, learn to change your outlook. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for relationships that always bring you down. Forgive those who wronged you and move on, kindness isn’t a sign of weakness, nor is forgiveness a sign of acceptance, it’s merely a willingness to be a strong person, admit people make mistakes, forgive and move on. When life is good, instead of looking for the “next best thing” stop a minute and be thankful and enjoy what you have because happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have. It might not be what you want for your future but it’s all you need right now. Well looky der, my headache is gone. I am happy. Life is good.

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The Ties that Bind

Second Life Fashion for Life for Relay for Life benefitting the American Cancer Society ends June 20th, 2014

The Ties That BindDress: Miamai, Dalida **FFL** . Shoos: Miamai, Jelly Summer **L’Accessories** . Glasses/Grape Leaf: Elysium, Junia **L’Accessories** . Hair: D!va, Kalli2 . Pose: Nantra .

This second blog is written about friendship and love between women and yes, there is a purpose. I don’t know if you know, but for this Fashion For Life, Squinternet Larnia the designer for Donna Flora has items being sold in the Fashion For Life event. I am sure most of you remember Squinternet, she was a friend to some of us, known by most of us, but to each of us whether friend or acquaintance we know right about this time last year she lost her life to cancer. I think few know the pain of the loss of Squinternet more than Monica Outlander of Miamai and for this event, for her friend Squinternet, she has released several items in the Donna Flora line created by Squinternet and Monica together with 100% of the sales of the outfits going to the American Cancer Society. 100%. You give to the American Society every Linden you pay so please, go buy this line, buy it all if you can. But, that’s not what this blog is about, this blog, as I said is about friendship and women. Love.

The Ties that BindDress: Donna Flora, Doris peacock **FFL** . Hair: Vanity Hair: Ma Belle . Necklace: GizzA, Peacock .

I once overheard the comment, “Yeah, well, you get two women together and it’s like bitch central.” I could have told him he only needed one woman, me, but my thoughts were unimportant what I realized to be true is the important fact, people diminish the real power and strength of female friendship, which is either supposed to descend into some kind of perverted male’s view of a lesbian love scene porn fantasy or be dismissed as meaningless or be re-written as a story of competition. But the truth is, friendships between women are often the deepest and most profound love stories, but they are often discussed as if they are ancillary, “bonus” relationships to the truly important ones. Women’s friendships outlast jobs, parents, husbands, boyfriends, lovers, and sometimes children. Ask my friends, they know it as do many of you.

My friends stood with me in the middle of the scary medical ordeal last Fall, they knew they couldn’t take away the pain of the experience, but promised to be there when I emerged on the other side of the pain of surgery and when the grief hits that my of dreams of having children is gone. I felt them, every day, supporting me when I was sad, walking for me when I no longer could. Smiling with me, when I found my smile again, and going through it all again, one more time, when my father past away rather suddenly in December. It is not an exaggeration to say that I would not have survived, that I will not survive, without my girlfriends.

Somehow it is always easier to figure things out when you are not involved in them, when you watch them from afar, and one day as I read Momo’s (Monica’s) blog post about Squinernet on Miamai’s website and as the days grew closer to the day Squinternet lost her fight with cancer, I realized I was given a view of what a true friendship could be. I saw, on that afternoon, that it’s possible to transcend the limits of your skin in a friendship. A friend can take you out of the boxes you’ve made for yourself and burn them up. This kind of friendship is not a frivolous connection, a supplementary relationship to the ones we’re taught and told are primary – spouses, children, parents. It is love. Support, salvation, transformation, life: this is what women give to one another when they are true friends, soul friends, what the Irish call anam cara.

Mo anam cara, my soul mate. All these years, I had it wrong, it’s not the relationship of a man and woman, but of the love of two people who when thrown together their lives just get a little bit better, brighter, and filled with peaceful joy. It’s what the women do for one another in real relationships with real consequences in real time, every day, what my friends do for me. We help one another other live and sometimes, we watch – and help – one another die. That’s what Monica Outlander has done for Squinternet Larnia, she has allowed her to live for one more day and to die just as gracefully as before. She has helped Squinternet help the other victims who will fight the ravages of cancer in years to come. A more noble honor of a friendship I’ve never seen.

On Contests

I can’t read music. Instead, I’d do stuff inside the piano, do harmonics and all kinds of crazy things. They used to put me in these annual piano contests down at Long Beach City College, and two years in a row, I won first prize – out of like 5,000 kids! The judges were like, ‘Very interesting interpretation!’ I thought I was playing it right. ~Eddie Van Halen

On ContestsHat: Baoba, Delicacy Blue **L’Accessoires** . Necklace: LaGyo, Prism . Earrings: Kunglers Extra, Esplendor **L’Accessoires** .

Yeah, I’m kinda like THAT guy, I always have been. Give me a perfectly good coloring book and I can’t wait to draw OUTSIDE the lines. But for those of you who are a competitive sort, [Leezu!] is having a contest I think you may be interested in. Sorry for the late notice, I just learned of it yesterday, but with the prize including 10,000L’s I thought I should pass this on to all you creative sorts out there. Yeah, don’t mind me, I didn’t even read the instructions, “take a snapshot at the special photo booth placed in the store for your convenience” but then what do you expect from a Cao anyway? Deadline is April 19th, so you better get moving on this one! Besides, they give you a gorgeous swimsuit just for participating, see? Everyone’s a winner!

On ContestsHair: Vanity Hair, Fallen . Bag: Natzuka, Alice **L’Accessoires** . Dress: Leezu!, Vienna dress . Leggins: Leezu! Maria tights . Pose: Behavior Body, Bag pose .

More Info: Spring is FINALLY here and we are celebrating with a fun photo contest. All you have to do is put together your favorite LeeZu outfit in spring colors (yellow, pink, white, blue, or anything brightly colored) and take a snapshot at the special photo booth placed in the store for your convenience. Sit on the park bench or stand and pose with the flowers and bunnies.

Once you are happy with your look, take a snapshot, name your photo ‘LeeZu Contest – Your Name’ and send it FULL PERMS to Barbara Nicholls. A panel of judges will judge the photos and their favorite outfit will win the big prize. Also the winning photo will be placed in the main lobby of the store for a week in a place of honor for everyone to admire.


Every eligible entrant will receive an exclusive color of the [LeeZu!] Rio Monokini as pictured on the contest poster.

The judging panel’s favorite outfit will also receive 10000 $L CASH!!!!

So go through your closet, grab some bright LeeZu colors and drop by the photo booth to take a pic for your chance to win! One entry per avatar. No restrictions on photo dimensions. Although photoshopping is permitted, we are judging the outfits as opposed to the quality of the photo.

[LeeZu!] Team

Pick and Roll

Pick and RollHair: CaTwA, Selena . Jewelry: Sax Shepherd, Spirit of Giving .

If you know me, you know I am a little batty when it comes to my Gators (University of Florida) sports teams. Don’t blame me, blame my parents. I was born there at the colleges hospital when my da was in medical school and have gone to all the football games and watched a lot of basketball games as well. Don’t be hater’s you other collegiate fans, I am a product of my environment. But with that said, I have to go meet up with the posse because we are going to a birthday party at a friends house. We are going to drink a few drinks (we have a designated driver) and watch the gators play Tennessee in basketball. I’d like to say I’m going to play that Cornhole game, but they all stand in line NOT to have me play on their team.

Pick and RollDress: *LpD*, Valeria *The Couturier’s Dock* . Blindfold: 22769 .

I can’t say I blame them, heck, I reckon I don’t really even want me on my team either. Last time I threw the bag past the hole, over 3 men more than 6 feet tall and square into the swimming pool. But dang, where’s the loyalty? It’s okay, let ‘em be that way, because what I lack in skill I more than make up for in laugh factor. Besides, I’d rather be watching the basketball game anyway.

Pick and RollShoos: Miamai, Georgia

The take from? I’m gonna pick up something cold to drink and roll on out of here, but I wanted to wish you all a wonderful weekend surrounded by all the people you love the best. Have fun!

Make Each Day Your Masterpiece

Make Each Day Your Masterpiece

Be true to yourself, help others, make each day your masterpiece, make friendship a fine art,

Make Each Day Your Masterpiece

drink deeply from good books – especially the Bible, build a shelter against a rainy day, give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day. ~ John Wooden

Make Each Day Your Masterpiece

Take From? Sure! Make each day your masterpiece, don’t settle for less than your best. Say thanks to all who support and love you, and hold close those who do not. Because who knows? One day they may turn out to be the one key missing link in your journey through life.

Hat/Umbrella Hat: Azoury, Steampunk Hat **L’Accessoires**
Hair: Boon, KBO 906
Tutu: *SoliDea FoliEs* Winter tutu
Necklace: Zibska, Lique **L’Accessoires**
Shoulder Pieces: Zibska, Keallach Pauldron
Dress/feather tutu: Boudoir, Black Swan
Shoos: Glam Affair, Vanity Ballerina feet **Shoetopia**

The Poignant Longing for Beauty

I oft wonder the sensibilities of a virtual lover and why one would choose to partake and another would not. Perhaps it is the isolation and loneliness that inhabits us with the nomadically spreading of the world. Typically in generations past families didn’t sprawl quite so far from one another, and here I have a sister in Kentucky, one in Wyoming and a brother in Florida, but certainly not in the same city where I reside. I wonder if this longing for virtual flesh is actually a searching for home. All creatures are drawn to beauty, the only difference the individuals definition of what is beauty. I saw a picture today and it set within me a longing with a keenness and poignant passion, a kind of breathless awe even, which suggested that beneath the longing to possess and be possessed by beauty there lies a longing to be known by another fully and humanly. Something of it struck some deeply hidden chord within my soul, making me yearn for, what? I’m not sure. But I do have to wonder perhaps the crux of this need for possession is the need to no longer travel and search, to find the place at last, where I fully belong. A home.

The Poignant Longing for BeautyHairs: Vanity Hair, The Meadow **NEW** . Necklace: Pure Poison, Lady Fly Necklace .

If home is a place where we fully know and are fully known and understood; where we find peace, rest, acceptance, where all seems right, how come the most we can expect from it is something fleeting and transitory? Because though it give us our happiest moments on Earth, at other segments the loved ones depart to manage their business or private affairs, care for other loved ones, another bill comes due, our budgets needs readjusting, unexpected expenses arise, or we lose our employment. So then, in a virtual affair, isn’t it plausible that much of its ethereal success is it seldom becomes mired in the day to day mundane complications of employee attrition, budgets and any of the multitudes of routine inconveniences which naturally befall someone during a life time?

The Poignant Longing for BeautyDress: AD Creations Dollhouse, Why **The Couturier’s Dock** . Shoos: BSD, SuperModel **L’Accessoires** .

Take from? For the first time in a long time, no I don’t think I have one. While I was watching the world today I saw a picture, a beautiful picture, it sent my senses careening, nudging some deeply hidden memory within me, so I stopped to think. In the thoughtfulness I realized, the emotions that arise when I can’t hang on to scattered moments of beauty forever could only be described as… homesickness.

Old Soul

Old SoulJacket: Sonatta Morales, *8*, Goldrose . Necklace: Mandala, Pearl Rain . Earrings: Mandala, Pine Cone .

I’ve often been told I have a very “old soul.” I didn’t think really hard about it, but by the time the third or fourth person made the comment I began to wonder why. I’m not truly sure still, but I reckon it’s due to a couple of factors. I have always been bookish, even in very young childhood but I am more so now, if possible. So I’ve learned a bit about human nature, nurture, and an insane amount of minute facts that tend to have no reward but to clutter my brain (or make me quite clever at the show Jeopardy). As an introvert, I spend a great deal of time watching and thinking, preferring this past time to actually speaking to people. Don’t get me wrong, I love, I absolutely adore, people. We are all so colorful, beautiful, smart, silly, cagey, grouchy, happy, sad, under-educated, over educated, homebody, busybody, well-travelled and not so much and so many other techno-colors of uniqueness. I adore you all because under this unique exterior we all share so many qualities; kindness, anger, meanness, hope, no hope, most of all the urge to be loved. But when it comes to life, I prefer my place sitting on the bench watching and listening to interactions to being the center of activity. Having lived my entire life with this quietness seems to give a person a predisposition to listening to the little voice within, the visceral intuition we are all born with, but some choose to ignore. So perhaps these are the qualities of an “old soul.” If not, I’d love to hear what you think.

Old SoulHair: KMadd, Ava . Pant: Glam Affair, Lou . Boot: [sYs], Divine .

But it’s so late, the day has past me by somehow. So the take from? Yeah, it’s time. Wouldn’t the world be such a wonderful place if we all realized that under it all, we are all the same? We want food, shelter, clothing, well I do anyway, mama buy me some Jimmy Choos! We breathe air, bleed when cut, have hopes and dreams, some of which are stomped on and shattered by others. We stress, get tired and sick and dimes to donuts we’ve probably all loved and lost someone because no one is an island. No one is invincible, we all have moments to stand tall, usually cross referenced by the moments that we fall. But we are all here, why not embrace the good of those around you and forgive them their “bad?” Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all learned people isn’t singular, it’s plural. And that guy next to you that you don’t like very much? Well he’s people too. Sonatta Morales has floors and floors of the coolest vintage wear around, if you get a chance, check it out, I know you will love it! See? I like you so much, I even included the taxi: Taxi:

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